But the lesson may be broken up. The making of a home begins before there is a home—it begins in the days when the life-choices are made. There are many unhappy marriages. There are families sheltered in houses, which are not homes. A happy home does not come as a matter of course because there has been a marriage ceremony, with pledged vows and a ring, and the minister's "Whom God has joined together, let no man put asunder," and a benediction. Happiness does not come through any mere forms or ceremonies; it has to be planned for, lived for, sacrificed for, prayed for, and ofttimes suffered for." (link)
~Crazily enough, I forgot it was our anniversary today. We went away for a little early celebration last month so perhaps that's why it wasn't on my mind. Loris was up before me and said he was going to go downstairs to make oatmeal for the kids (who weren't awake yet). I went down shortly after and didn't see him in the kitchen but thought maybe he went to bring some garbage outside or something? I was getting my breakfast and suddenly the door opened and he came in with flowers, having snuck out to the store quickly. I was confused until he smiled and said, Happy Anniversary! And the kids weren't awake yet so we made eggs and toast and juice and sat together reminiscing a bit and wondering how we got from there to here so quickly?
Four years of marriage and almost three little ones and I continue to marvel at what God has given us. Of course, our marriage is not perfect (because we are not!) but as we move through these days and years we can each affirm more and more that yes, the secret to ongoing joy and union in marriage is Christ. He brought us together and holds us together and as we continue to pursue Him we are brought closer as time goes on, building what we hope would be a marriage that pleases and honors our God. All because of His grace and sanctifying work in our lives.
Thanking Him for it all today!